Ways to Stay Out of the Spotlight on Your Wedding Day

If you’re so excited to marry your partner and celebrate your love with your friends and family, but desperately DON’T want all your wedding guests staring at you all night, we got you! Good news: we have the best recommendations on how to have a wedding while staying out of the spotlight.

  1. Skip the announced entrance! Join your cocktail hour or reception with your guests whenever you’re ready—no need for the DJ to let everyone know.

  2. Do your first dance or parents dances while everyone is already on the dance floor. Just let your band or DJ know what special songs you want, and when those come on, find the person you’re dancing to it with! People around you might notice, they might not, but either way, you get to have a personal moment to an intentional song without having all eyes on you. 

  3. Feel free to greet your guests before the ceremony! This will really take the pressure off of seeing everyone for the first time as you’re having the ceremony. It creates a much more natural environment.

  4. Skip the announced cake cutting. You can nix a cake-cutting altogether, or do one with your photographer without anyone knowing. Cake cutting is a cute moment, but it can interrupt the natural flow of the night and makes sure everyones eyes are on you!

  5. Get ready with your partner. Its non-traditional, we know, but the “first look” moment can be huge pressure! If you want to avoid that spotlight time, get ready together.

  6. Sit with your guests rather than a sweetheart table. A sweetheart table inevitably means guests staring at you two all night long and can feel a bit unnatural for couples who don’t want that attention.

  7. Have your VIPs give speeches at the rehearsal dinner rather than the wedding reception. Rehearsal dinners are typically smaller & more intimate events and usually feel much more relaxed than the wedding reception. During speeches, all eyes and focus will be on you the whole time—so you’ll want to feel as comfortable as possible!

  8. Take your portraits in a private area. There is nothing more attention-grabbing than the newlyweds taking portraits right where all the guests can see them. Ask your photographer if you can find a private space for these! Plus, that means more one-on-one time with your partner.

  9. Do private vows before the ceremony. Sharing words with your partner about your marriage & commitment can be scary to do in front of lots of people! Feel free to share your “traditional” vows during the ceremony, and have a private moment beforehand where you share more personal ones.

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